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Spousal assault is when either the male or the female in the relationship is being beaten up very brutally by their partner. They are often married. In most violent marriages, the women subjected to spousal assaults by the man. Women who are subjected to such beatings known as "battered wives." However, men are often victims of spousal abuse too.
The five types of spousal abuse are physical, psychological, emotional, sexual and financial. Some men beat their wives to a point until they believe that they have power and control over their battered wives.
There are many contributing factors to spousal assault. A common myth is that it is direct result of the perpetuator's drinking problem, and if it is treated, the addiction and abuse will end. Althought alcohol and other drugs may be a contributing factor, they do not actually cause the abuse, as much spusal abuse occurs without any substance involved in the abuse. One key reason for the abuse is to gain power and control over their spouse. If they realize that they have not received enough control and power they would continue to do so till they finally gain advantage. It is likely that a batterer who constantly drinks and does drugs when they batter is using alcohol and drugs as an excuse.
There are three phases to the cycle of violence. There is a long subdued phase in which the pressure builds to the boiling point. This is called the "latent phase." The latent phase eventually is triggered into an acute phase of battering. After the acute phase comes a stage called "the aftermath" in which many abusers are apologetic and want forgiveness for what they have done. THey will rationalize many excuses for why the battering incident occurred, purchase flowers and other gifts during this phase, but this phase is shrt-lived, quickly sliding back into a new latent phase.
Meanwhile, the victim has confused and mixed feeling and about the episode. The aftermath phase often feels very gratifying to someone with very low self esteem. The battered spouse typically that she or he did something to deserve the abuse and takes some level of responsibility for what happpened. eels If you had been a better wife , Oh , it was your fault , Your not being a good mother to the kids or to the family . then you would not have deserved to be beaten up . Beaten up their wives is all about control and power over their wives. The man tries to control what she does, whom she is talking to all the time and even keeps a track on her to see where she is going at any time of the day. If the wife does not listen to the King they try to intimidate their wives by putting fear in their wives by giving them fearful looks, unusual actions , giving her threatening gestures , talking to her in a loud despicable voice. Grabbing things of her property and smashing and throwing them all over the house. The husband believes that he has absolute power and ever-lasting control over his wife. Most of the men consider them selves as the king of the castle in other word the home. He thinks that he is the one who makes the Big decisions in the home. And also not letting the wife make any rules of her own in the home, and she is also expected to listen the man if not she knows what would happen if she doesn't listen to her husband. The man takes it as an advantage to control the household so no one is able to over control him. Making or carrying out threats to his wife or emotionally hurting her is another way that the man wants power over his wife. Using the children to make the wife feel guilty in a way the man will sometimes do to harass her, Many of the men will ask their wives to do very sickening sexual things to him even though she doesn't want to do such an act with him. Always physically attacking her sexual parts on her body and treating her like a sex object that can be very ridiculing for a woman, the man sexually abuses her. There are five forms of wife abuse. Firstly, psychological abuse. Psychological abuse is when the women live with the constant fear of threats of violence against herself, her children and Page 3 her friends or relatives. Always being harassed at work with phone calls or visits or being threatened by the abuser can put the women in great fear. Secondly emotional abuse. Emotional abuse is being put down, criticized by family , friends and her husband. Women who are emotionally abused find it hard to find work, make new friends and even join social groups outside their homes. Thirdly, physical abuse. Physical abuse is when any slapping, punching, kicking, or choking occurs. Sometimes the women are slammed repeatedly Against walls and are increasingly injured with many types of weapons or other such objects, Brutal beatings can result in bruising, lacerations, broken bones, or even sometimes it can be very fatal. Sixty percent of the victims of female homicide died in the hands of their partner. Fourthly, sexual abuse or marital rape. Women are forced against their own will to perform sexual acts or even having pain and injury being inflicted during the intercourse. If the women do not perform sexual behavior to their partner, Beating usually occurs. Finally, financial abuse. Women who have no access to the family's money for any of there personal use. When they are need of money their husbands start asking many questions for what reason they are needing the money for though if he was doing some type of murder investigation. In conclusion to this research, I have thought much about this and think that this should be delt with much serious consideration and should be stopped. Because no women at all should be treated this way under any circumstances and the abuser should be delt with in a harsh way. If any body who knows of any people who are being assaulted in any way even if it is only verbally you need to help them in any way you can. While many types of abuse are more dangerous than others, all abuse and assaults need to be taken very seriously. The people looking onto an abusive relationship need to abandon the thought that is none of their business. Violence against women is defiantly not a private; it is a matter that should concern every body in the world no matter who you are. Page 4 BIBLIOGRAPHY Beaudry, Micheline. Battered Women. Montreal : Black Rose Books, 1985 Denham, Donna and Joan Gillespie. Wife Abuse: A Workplace Issue. Ottawa : National Clearinghouse on Family Violence, 1993 Martin, Del. Battered wives. New York: Pocket Books, 1976 Page 5 Word Count: 1173
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