Dealing with Stress
Some level of stress is just a normal part of everyday life. Consequently, stress isn't necessarily bad. Without some stress, we become bored and lose focus. The problem is usually not stress in itself but rather our ability to deal with stress. Problems come from a lack of assertiveness, poor time management, poor self-care, an inability to relax, and inadequate self knowledge. So what are some things that you can do about stress?
- Healthy Diversions. People need a balance in life. Part of that balance is to have healthy diversions, such as enjoying good friendships, having passion for a hobby, sport, or interest that can take us on a mental vacation from the every day grind.
- Relaxation Techniques. We need to be able to learn how to calm ourselves down. Easy going people, and those who had easy going, soothing parents come by self soothing easily. Otherwise, you must learn how to do it, and do it often until it becomes a natural part of you. Learn to calm yourself. Focus breathing can be helpful. Focus on your breathing. Breathe slowly and deeply. Keep in mind religious, or philosophical values, such as, "I will strive to be a good person, no matter how I'm provoked_" Or. "I'm only human, I make mistakes. I will try to do better, but not beat myself
- Be Assertive. Learn to say "no," and to delegate work. But being assertive doesn't mean that you are entitled to get your way. People who always expect to get their way are never happy. Learn to negotiate needs.
- Time Management. Prioritize your tasks, and put first things first. More people get stressed-out worrying about how they will get things done, than just putting the time in and working smart. Working smart means doing the most important things first. Stick to a schedule, that's reasonable. Be realistic. Watch out for a false sense of urgency that serves only to make you more anxious.
- Chronic Worrying. There are some people who will worry regardless of the situation. These chronic worriers can benefit from psychotherapy. Psychotherapy can lower a person's basic level of anxiety. Chronic worry can come from lack of self knowledge. There is usually some unconscious issue being triggered by the stressful situation, such as feeling that you will be a failure if you don't perform well. Psychotherapy can help you over come these unconscious self defeating fears. Then every day stress will be easier to handle.
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